I’ve seen a glut of articles on mindfulness recently, which can sound similar to the Three Principles, as can ‘reframing’ (basically changing negative thoughts to positive ones) and I’ve also seen suggestions to combine the two approaches.
Inside-out isn’t a technique – it’s how you already work
The ideas are pointing in the right direction – looking inside for answers, instead of blaming circumstances or other people – and they can work well for some people for some of the time, but it’s not showing the graceful ease with which we can live our lives once we let go of focusing on what thoughts and feelings we’re creating and start looking at how we’re creating them and where it all comes from (of course, exploring the ‘why’ will take us into mind-blowing realms that will require we stay up until the early hours whilst lining up empty red wine bottles.)
We don’t need to focus and practice being mindful of the present moment and we don’t need to change our thoughts. Why would we when at the core of every one of us is perfect mental health, wellbeing, happiness and calm? The design is perfect, it comes with peace of mind and mindfulness as standard, we just misunderstand that.
It’s really really not real
That moment that we recognise that the reality in front of us that looks oh-so-real and the feeling that feels way-flipping-painful are just something we’ve conjured up all by our own sweet selves via our thoughts is the moment that we see that a) We’re incredibly creative beings and b) There’s a whole lot more to life than that ONE thought in that ONE moment.
Sometimes that’s a ‘Woah! This changes everything!’ lightbulb moment – it was for me (my full story is here but I’ve knocked up this picture for those of you who like the visual.)
For some people, it’s a gradual realisation that their beliefs, worries, fears and insecurities don’t need to rule their lives because they’re all just thoughts in the moment. One by one those thoughts drift away all by themselves. As those thoughts fall away, we’re left naturally with peace of mind and thoughts of the present moment.
And then what…?
Life goes on, stuff happens, our moods go up and down, new thoughts flow in – sometimes ones that we don’t enjoy feeling – but knowing this is all that’s happening and that the design remains perfect, means we’ll see that we don’t need to do anything, think anything, learn anything, practice anything or change anything to fix it.
Right now, in this moment, you’re already perfect.