Be mindful that you’re already perfect

I’ve seen a glut of articles on mindfulness recently, which can sound similar to the Three Principles, as can ‘reframing’ (basically changing negative thoughts to positive ones) and I’ve also seen suggestions to combine the two approaches.

Inside-out isn’t a technique – it’s how you already work

The ideas are pointing in the right direction – looking inside for answers, instead of blaming circumstances or other people – and they can work well for some people for some of the time, but it’s not showing the graceful ease with which we can live our lives once we let go of focusing on what thoughts and feelings we’re creating and start looking at how we’re creating them and where it all comes from (of course, exploring the ‘why’ will take us into mind-blowing realms that will require we stay up until the early hours whilst lining up empty red wine bottles.)

We don’t need to focus and practice being mindful of the present moment and we don’t need to change our thoughts. Why would we when at the core of every one of us is perfect mental health, wellbeing, happiness and calm? The design is perfect, it comes with peace of mind and mindfulness as standard, we just misunderstand that.

It’s really really not real

That moment that we recognise that the reality in front of us that looks oh-so-real and the feeling that feels way-flipping-painful are just something we’ve conjured up all by our own sweet selves via our thoughts is the moment that we see that a) We’re incredibly creative beings and b) There’s a whole lot more to life than that ONE thought in that ONE moment.

Sometimes that’s a ‘Woah! This changes everything!’ lightbulb moment – it was for me (my full story is here but I’ve knocked up this picture for those of you who like the visual.)

3 steps to happiness

For some people, it’s a gradual realisation that their beliefs, worries, fears and insecurities don’t need to rule their lives because they’re all just thoughts in the moment. One by one those thoughts drift away all by themselves. As those thoughts fall away, we’re left naturally with peace of mind and thoughts of the present moment.

And then what…?

Life goes on, stuff happens, our moods go up and down, new thoughts flow in – sometimes ones that we don’t enjoy feeling – but knowing this is all that’s happening and that the design remains perfect, means we’ll see that we don’t need to do anything, think anything, learn anything, practice anything or change anything to fix it.

Right now, in this moment, you’re already perfect.





3 Comments on Be mindful that you’re already perfect

  1. Paolo
    May 23, 2014 at 1:45 pm (5 months ago)

    Love it Lian. It perfectly reflects the simplicity of the system that’s behind our experience.

  2. Richard Ingate (@LaoRick)
    May 24, 2014 at 6:50 am (5 months ago)

    The pioneering work of Jon Kabat Zinn on Mindfulness has helped many and had the conventional benefit of being evidence based. However, it has also led some to forget that the techniques upon which it is based exist within an (Buddhist) understanding of how life is. Traditional meditation context is partly about experiencing those light bulb moments within the framework of the particular tradition. For example, experiencing impermanence as more than an opinion, but the way the universe works. So there are advantages and disadvantages to extracting a technique from a tradition and using it in isolation.

    For me – and this is just an opinion- my background is in Buddhism before I learned about the 3P. I have found 3P useful to shed light on my Buddhist understanding. The strength of 3P is in the lightbulb moments you mention that bring undeniable insight. As people say in the 3P, we are only one thought away from….

    The value of formal mindfulness ie sitting/walking practice for me is that is gives a context for the mind to slow down, quieten. Also, mindfulness develops a willingness to give space to the unpleasant thoughts and feelings so we do not compulsively seek relief but have the inner space and clarity to remember these feelings are the colour of my thoughts too.

    Just some thoughts! Thank you for your article which inspired them.

  3. Leonard
    May 25, 2014 at 12:34 am (5 months ago)

    Lian. I so enjoy your writings. even when I am lost drifting in my thoughts i am still present in them. When I let the system do what its suppose to do. I am still present but in a clearer room.


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